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[g8crasher]

Game for some swinging, dear?

By AUDREY VIJAINDREN

There is a new trend in town. And most may frown upon it, but many are practising it in secret. AUDREY VIJAINDREN chats with couples who have chosen to lead a swinging lifestyle by swapping partners, despite the risk to marriage, health and reputation.

THEY enjoy successful careers, have good marriages and are caring parents. But a few times a month these couples swap partners with other married couples for sexual gratification.

They are known as swingers.

Most are professionals in their 30s, hoping to spice up their marriages and quench their sexual curiosity.

They swear this "open" concept strengthens their marriages by suppressing any need to cheat.

But beneath this outwardly desirable lifestyle lies many problems. Many swingers learn that jealousy is a force to be reckoned with, and most of these marriages end in divorce.

Over the past year, more and more swinging groups have sprouted up. Their aim is to persuade other married couples to join this "secret" society.

Internet forums and chat rooms are a popular form of communication within the swinging community. Couples chat freely about their swinging experiences and join "member only" online clubs, looking for those willing to swap partners.

The more experienced and adventurous swingers get addicted to swing parties held in five-star hotels with up to 10 couples.

What is their trick to not raising any curious eyebrows at the hotel? Act like they are part of a tour group by carrying maps and files.

George and his wife Tina (not their real names) have been swinging for six years and say the experience has done wonders for their marriage.

"People may wonder why we do it. Why not? Isn't it better than cheating on your spouse and lying? We have an open and honest relationship. Most non-swingers don't have that," he said.

The couple entertain other swingers in their home at least three times a month.

The friendship formed with the other couples, they say, is not just about physical attraction.

"It is not just about sex. Swinging is a great way to make new friends. Some of our closest friends are the ones we met at swinging parties."

The couple sometimes go on holiday with other swingers. They share the same bedroom and swap partners for meals and sightseeing.

But, don't they get jealous?

"Not at all. We have already set our minds so we will not get jealous. In fact it is a turn-on to watch Tina with someone else.

" It is purely physical satisfaction with no emotional feelings involved. In the end, you go home with your spouse. And that's what counts," George said.

Tina said talking about their session when they get home, is a another major turn-on. "We often tell each other what we liked and disliked about the other partner. Most times our talks end in intimacy. It's an arousing experience."

The couple has only one rule when swinging --- always use protection. "We have multiple sex partners a month, of course there is a fear of contracting a disease. But we always practise safe sex.

"We do regular blood tests and so far, we have tested negative for sexually transmitted diseases," he said.

Many are enjoying the swinging lifestyle as much as George and Tina, but an equal number have ended their marriages.

Joan (not her real name) is one wife who could not live in the swinging community for long.

"We were married for five years when my husband first suggested the idea of swapping partners. He had heard about it from a colleague. We went to a swing party, where we got to know other married couples. It was exciting in the beginning.

"The first year we only swapped partners once a month. But as time went by, my husband wanted weekly swing sessions."

Joan said her husband's eagerness to be with other women made her insecure.

"I got depressed and felt inadequate around him. The whole experience made me feel fat and ugly because most of the female swingers were beautiful.

"We were told that jealousy was not part of the swinging culture. But how can you not get jealous when you watch your husband enjoy himself thoroughly with someone else every week?"

When Joan told her husband she was not keen on swinging any more, he was adamant about continuing. "We had arguments, and after two months he agreed to stop. We stopped talking about it and our marriage went back to normal, or so it seemed."

What Joan didn't know at the time, was that her husband had convinced a colleague to pose as his wife at swinging sessions.

"When I found out he had been deceiving me, I asked for a divorce. He said he tried to kick the habit, but the thrill of a new partner each week was too great.

"I am devastated and blame myself for agreeing to compromise our marriage vows for sexual pleasure. This lifestyle might work for some, but it definitely did not work for me," she said.

http://www.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/Malaysia/Story/A1Story20080713-76362.html

[Guest sy69u]

heard of this a couple of years ago. was introduced by 1 of my business partners in singapore. very curious but ......................... dont mind trying but............. hahahahaha

[Guest 9339]

heard of this a couple of years ago. was introduced by 1 of my business partners in singapore. very curious but ......................... dont mind trying but............. hahahahaha

Ya la, if you married and try.....

Delete my phone nos from your phone book and memory.

This is a VERY VERY VERY SERIOUS MISTAKE all man and women should'nt do.

[g8crasher]

Basket I already have problem sharing my food with other people.

Farkin disease incubators man.

[Guest sy69u]

errrrr.......... guys, no need to be married to join. as long as u got another partner tat is willing. but like i said, curious but ...................

[g8crasher]

From what I understand about these swinger clubs, single guys are usually not welcome! Only single girls and couples as there are usually more than enough frankfurters to go around

[Guest dash]

i agree wif 9339 and g8crasher....

lets be honest,

its always nice to orgle at other gals and even nicer if we can touch.

but I have to share my wife, NO WAY!!!

so keep that devilish thoughts within the confines of your mind.

so the moral is, just dun touch or covert any gal thats not yours.

why put up your happiness like a gamble?

nice read though, thought this only happens in ang mo countries......

[Guest sy69u]

From what I understand about these swinger clubs, single guys are usually not welcome! Only single girls and couples as there are usually more than enough frankfurters to go around

bro, u can be single but as long as u bring a partner it is fine. but then again, i'm not a member...............hehehehehe

[Guest sy69u]

i agree wif 9339 and g8crasher....

lets be honest,

its always nice to orgle at other gals and even nicer if we can touch.

but I have to share my wife, NO WAY!!!

so keep that devilish thoughts within the confines of your mind.

so the moral is, just dun touch or covert any gal thats not yours.

why put up your happiness like a gamble?

nice read though, thought this only happens in ang mo countries......

ya bro, totally agree. 'OPP' is STRICTLY NO NO. sekali got knife inserted behind your back also dont know why.

[Guest sy69u]

heard of this a couple of years ago. was introduced by 1 of my business partners in singapore. very curious but ......................... dont mind trying but............. hahahahaha

don't even call ,e if you see me in the street. hahahahaha

dont call u???? if i dont remember correctly, its u who recommend me........ hahahahahahahahahahaha

[Guest 9339]

sy69u ]

heard of this a couple of years ago. was introduced by 1 of my business partners in singapore. very curious but ......................... dont mind trying but............. hahahahaha

don' wrote:

dont call u???? if i dont remember correctly, its u who recommend me........ hahahahahahahahahahaha

Dont even think.... Erase that evil tots from your mind.

I think you wont want your future wife actually know Jenvid before you intro her to him......Jenvid got all the parties event in his communicator, hahaa...

[g8crasher]

Wah Jenvid Stagnight party invites floating around freely nowadays eh ?

[Guest jenvid]

huh... *blur* how come I get drag into such stuff ? hahaha.. hallo 100% innocent hor.... haha

Reading & knowing is 1 thing lor.. doing is another....curiousity always kills the cat.... :ninjaturtle:

[g8crasher]

Jenvid got all the parties event in his communicator, hahaa...

You kana drag in thanks to 9339!!!

[Guest 9339]

Reading & knowing is 1 thing lor.. doing is another....curiousity always kills the cat....

You have all the website to such activities mah.......

[Guest 9339]

:offtopic:

Btw,Komp, are we heading Penang this Nov for Penang Hero's wedding? Wedding Convoy for him? I dont mind to stay there for 3 day in return him a favor.but have to confirm date earlier.

[Guest jenvid]

Reading & knowing is 1 thing lor.. doing is another....curiousity always kills the cat....

You have all the website to such activities mah.......

hallo ! although I am all plug into the net, I am not the One (ala the Matrix) though coming very close liao... hahaha

[g8crasher]

There's a convention on swinging this summer in the US.

Looks like it's one massive orgy

http://www.swingfest.com/about.htm

http://www.swingfest.com/parties.htm

[Guest 9339]

So leon are into it huh? Got info too....hee.... :tazzie:

[g8crasher]

Hahahahaha yeah bro :bootyshake: Was just talking to an ex camp mate who mentioned that he was approached to join one of these swinger clubs whilst having a drink at boat quay.

[keltanky]

wow, 5K couples, that's HELL al ot!!

[g8crasher]

5,000 couples mixing it all up in sweat, sperm, vaginal fluids and all types of STDs and HIV strains can only snowball into new mutant strains!! Dude it's disgusting.

[g8crasher]

Hahahahaha

[Guest jenvid]

Haiya, TS is the ONE !!!!